You CAN Have Your Cake & Eat It Too

If there's a another theme I write about in my blogs, it's about how so many of the phrases we've grown up with are pretty negative and honestly don't really make sense if you think about it. My experience in my younger life is I decided to use them because millions of others before me did too. Kind of like the lion following the sheep examples. I realized a long time ago that I was going to really study these phrases and only use the ones that have high vibrational frequencies to them, being the lion that I am. No, not because I am a Leo sign, but because I am fierce and have overcome being a sheep for a long period of time. Yes, you can go from being a sheep to a lion and yes you can go in reverse from a lion to a sheep. These are all ways that are in YOUR control and no one else. No one can tell me it's ridiculous to believe that, but all I know is they probably are living in a limited way of thinking and their bandwidth is different than mine. Nothing bad, just different and not progressed. Those people are easy to spot. They are the ones that you may not want to share your hopes and dreams with because they will most likely poop on your parade, figuratively of course. If we are being honest, it's not really their fault. They were most likely brought up thinking this way based on the experience of what they have lived or seen. So for example, in the place I'm currently working, we make somewhere between $30-38 an hour based on the amount of tips we receive from customers at our to-go, very well known restaurant. When the topic of finding a new job came up with a coworker 20 years my junior, he replied, "You won't find a job that pays this much." (Insert major eye roll emoji here) Do I blame him for saying or thinking this? NO! First of all he's 20 and therefore the amount of years of experience in this game of life. Second, different bandwidth and LIMITED thinking. This is why our future depends on the ones that stick to what they believe especially if they have seen that we are UNLIMITED and we can be, do or have anything. Following the laws of attraction and our inner being of course, that knows exactly what we are aligned with and for. So am I going to waste my time and energy explaining this to my coworker? Yes and no. Yes because all I tell him is his mind is limited and that it's ok, then I walk away. Plant the seed and hope it gets watered and grows to be fruitful. So is he the type of person I would share my goals and wishes with? NO. Those people can also add a smidge of doubt in you and we don't want an smidge of that in your aura. We need to be very mindful and serious about sharing these things with only the people that support you, love you, and encourage you to keep going even if your dreams sound far fetched. These people can be strangers, best friends, family or coworkers. It doesn't matter. Just surround yourself with even 1 person that enjoys your aspirations as much as you do. Who knows, you may even inspire that person to fulfill his or her own dreams and goals.

So I recently started a new reality TV series called "Farmer Wants a Wife." It's awesome because the men are such gentlemen. They are so respectful and call the girls Miss before their names. They live a pretty tough but simple life due to the many conditions of working on acres of farmland. In the recent years I seem to have developed a sort of crush on these types of gentlemen, showing me that chivalry most certainly is not dead; but I digress. So, when watching an episode last night, one of the girls told one of the farmer bachelors, "You can't have your cake and eat it too." I had to laugh because the idea of writing this particular blog had come to me a week ago and this was the confirmation to write it. She said it so fast and I almost felt like she wasn't even sure if she knew how to express her frustration. I mean, it's a show you sign up for knowing you are competing with 5 other girls (which is way less than the bachelor) and you need to see if you and him are compatible. Pretty simple concept if you ask me. Just like any other speed dating event, if you've ever joined one. I knew she was just young and felt insecure. No problem. We've all been there and may still be there. Insecurity is a bitch. It can creep up on you even when you think you've already cleared and healed old wounds. Insecurity shows up to show you that you still have some work to do. She ended up blaming the farmer for not giving her enough attention and being the gentleman he was, he listened, apologized and let her go. So that he can, in fact, have his cake and eat it too. If we want to literally study this statement, why wouldn't I be able to buy my cake and eat it too? I can literally, right now, walk into Whole Foods and buy a delicious chocolate cake and eat it too. I mean why else would someone purchase cake? To look at it? Who came up with this ridiculous expression? Does anyone even think about this as much as I do? Probably not, or if they do they're probably not discussing it. So let's sum this up. You CAN have your "cake" and eat it too. For example, your cake is having a great partner, or your dream house, or dream car, or great job, or (fill in the blank). You CAN have one or all of them. Did I mention the first step in the Law of Attraction is Ask and It Will Be Given (or ask and you shall receive). Whatever floats your boat. The second step is to sit back and CHILL. The third step is stop doing all the things that are keeping you from getting your "cake and eating it too." I know it can be tough to "chill" about those things you want and I know that it can also be tough to stop doing all the things you do to keep you from getting those desires. But it is not an excuse to let you think you can't have any or all of them. The ways to chill and not stop yourself from getting them is, NOT talking to "those" people aforementioned, reading a book, exercising, laughing at or enjoying a good movie, hanging out with fun people, taking a long nap, eating at your favorite restaurant, and so on. I'm sure you get the point. Focus on ways to TRY and distract yourself from all your "cakes" you want. It will work. The Universe will know which ones you have the least resistance to and go from there. Sometimes the things wanted tend to get tweaked and no longer look like what you originally thought they would be and that's ok. Has anyone told you to trust in your inner being? To trust the Universe? To trust God? To trust in energy? You chose which one of these questions feels better for you to answer and go from there. But, one of the key ingredients in your cake is TRUST. The second ingredient is FAITH. Those are the actual key ingredients like flour and baking soda/powder that are necessary for a real cake. If you continue to build your FAITH and TRUST, get ready for the Universe to show you the "magic." Continue to find your balance and navigate through the vast experiences the Universe will put you in. Through every experience good or bad, there is a lesson learned. Believe you are being molded into someone better and better each day. Don't give up on yourself and who you are becoming. Believe that you can ALWAYS have your cake and eat it too. All this talk about cake is making me hungry. The best solution is for you and I to go and get one of our favorite cakes and eat a healthy amount of it (I totally understand due to health reasons if you don't finish the entire thing in one sitting). Your soul will thank you for it and the Universe will applaud you, trust me.