Hopeful Romantic

It's a funny thing when you start revisiting certain phrases you have grown up hearing. One of those phrases in particular happens to be being a "hopeless romantic." Now if you were to Google that phrase you would read that it is described as, "someone with an idealistic and often sentimental view of love, believing in fairy-tale endings, soulmates (or from my many topics Twin Flame), and grand gestures, even in the face of evidence or experience to the contrary." Now, I believe in that entire statement except for the fact that hopeless has a negative connotation. The definition of hopeless is "feeling or causing despair about something." What part of those 2 words put together gives you the feeling of a pure positive frequency that emits true belief in TRUE LOVE and romance? Now you may be asking me why I am taking this phrase so literally and who cares anyway? I care about alignment and getting things down to precise energies and frequencies. I have spoken about how through Abraham Hicks' work we learn to fine tune the difference of the vibrations of words like motivation vs inspiration and gratitude vs appreciation. The words of inspiration and appreciation have a higher frequency and vibration than those of motivation and gratitude because you can sense a bit of "struggle" when you pay attention to those latter words just as you do with "hopeless." I like to think of the classic fairy tale of Goldilocks and The Three Bears. She tested the porridge, the chairs and beds until she found what was just right. I want you to do the same for, not only these words and phrases we've heard growing up, but in the sense of really paying attention to the vibrational frequencies of your thoughts and feelings. Every minor change or tweeking in the words we use and the thoughts we think makes a difference in our lives. You just have to start paying attention and re-writing that script. This is why I was looking back to using the phrase "hopeless romantic" myself a couple weeks ago and knew I needed to change it to being a HOPEFUL ROMANTIC. Doesn't that sound more like someone who is idealistic and believing in fairy tale endings and finding true love? I believe it does. There is nothing hopeless about that feeling. Not meaning that in this journey we never lose our faith or feel at times it could be hopeless. The important part to remember is regaining our faith somehow, someway. Maybe continuing to read the romantic comedies or continuing to watch the romantic movies that show us the process to finding true love and how it does come with doubt and times of uncertainty. If you continue to stay a HOPEFUL ROMANTIC, then you shall prevail ultimately through the topsy turvy journey of finding your true love.

I recently watched the movie "The Life List" that just came out on Netflix after reading the book a few years back. There were many important messages in that film but most importantly is that life has it's up and downs including losses and gains. The important thing is to not let that get you off track from what your soul and heart are guiding you to. You must allow yourself to process what you have lost or what hasn't gone right and then take another shot at it. Like Abraham always says, there's another ship, and another and another. You will figuratively never miss your ship! If you believe that there are endless ships for you in YOUR harbor then you can get back on that horse again to your new ship. My use of idioms are making me laugh and I hope it does the same for anyone reading this. So back to the movie/book, this main character, Alex, deals with loss but in that loss has many important gains for herself and her soul journey. She made a list of what she wanted to do in life when she was 13. A time when most of us are happy (hopefully), optimistic and adventurous, without all of life and people's negativity influencing how we think and act. She made that list and then grew up and then life happened and she never got around to her list of like 10 things and one of them included finding true love. Her mom insisted she go back to her list now, over a decade later and check each one off as she accomplished it. It didn't make sense to Alex but she followed her moms advice and found that as she got uncomfortable, not knowing where it would lead her, it led her to finding the best version of herself, having fun (as I'm typing this the song "Girls Just Want to Have Fun" came on, but guys can have fun too!) and ultimately finding true love without settling. Since this post is about romance and also finding true love, the movie brought up 4 important questions to ask yourself to see if you feel you have indeed found true love.

1. Can you tell him/her everything in your heart?

2. Is he/she kind?

3. Does he/she help you become the best version of yourself?

4. Can you imagine him/her as the father/mother of your children?

Now, I know this is a movie but really think about these kinds of questions and if you want to take it a step further, ask yourself these questions first in first person. Can you speak about what's in your heart? Are you kind? Are you constantly trying to become the best version of yourself? Can you imagine seeing yourself as a mother/father, if that is what you want in your future? Because you can only attract your best version of your true love if you can see these in yourself first! So I advise that you sit down somewhere feeling happy or maybe after doing something fun or relaxing and make your own list. Title it "My Life List" and write down 10 things you want, especially if some of them scare you or get you out of your comfort zone because as I've said many times, that's when the MAGIC happens! What have you thought about, even though it sounds far fetched or ridiculous? Add it to your list! Taking golfing lessons? Making pottery? Reading the entire collection of Harry Potter books? Skydiving? Taking a road trip alone? Making peace with a person? Asking for a promotion? Anything is possible with your list! Remember the outcome is you becoming a better version of yourself because you are stepping outside of your comfort zone or at least following your passions or what sparks your interest. After you write your list, give yourself a time frame of when to complete it all and make it realistic and not more than a year. if you can set it for 6-12 months you will have time to do it all! See your growth after checking off each item although you may not even see or feel something after the first couple and you don't even have to follow it in the order you wrote it. This is YOUR life and YOUR journey so follow your heart and inner guidance (compass) and it will never lead you astray. Remember to follow your North Star because that is what leads to your destiny and what lies ahead is more beautiful than you can ever imagine or dream of. That is only if you TRUST, BELIEVE, keep your FAITH and most importantly have FUN. Stop settling for less than you deserve THIS MINUTE and get out there! Your destiny awaits....

#love