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Writer's pictureNahaleh Doroudian
May 30, 20227 min read

The Ultimate Way To Freedom

There are so many experiences that we face in our lives that at times start to diminish our sense of being free. That kind of freedom for me is free to be who I want to be. Free to explore the world as I am guided to. Free to express my desires and wants that are leading me on my greatest path to love and all that I desire. This desire also comes with connecting to the world in order to help shine light and love on my family, friends, animals, nature, strangers and just about anyone or anything that needs it. The only way I have learned to do this is by following the greatest mentors and teachers that have found the "secret" to their freedom and greatness. This "secret" is not really a secret. Through my experiences, my own self proclaimed mantra is, surround yourself with greatness and you too will be headed for greatness in anything you desire. The way I have found to my ultimate freedom is by taking responsibility for what brings me love, joy, & happiness. It is also to take responsibility for what brings about any anger, frustration, sadness, or feeling unworthy. I am the only person that is in control of what I am feeling and projecting onto others.


I grew up always hearing parents, mine as well, saying things like, "If you do this certain thing, it will make me happy." Or maybe your parents let you borrow money and then in return it was expected that you would follow their rules and wants. Either way, my experience was always that I needed to do my best in order to make everyone around me happy. It didn't matter if that in return brought me joy, as long as everyone else approved of my good behavior and the things I did. How crazy is this? How much pressure can one person put on him or herself? After years of following this modality, I was exhausted. Wouldn't anyone be exhausted for putting everyone else ahead of him or herself? So after my awakening, I realized the secret to not only my happiness, but everyone around me, was to take matters into my own hands. I began to engross myself into years of study into the Law of Attraction. I began to do my own experiments and practice the tools and processes that helped me realize that as long as I was happy and filled with love within, it didn't matter what others did or did not do. We have seen signs and statements saying things like "Find Your Happy", or "Find Your Bliss." This is so very true and important because that is the only way to your freedom. Once you release the thoughts, fears, ego, and limiting beliefs about yourself through your inner work, you are many steps closer to attaining that freedom. I was reminded about this concept recently at work. My manager had repeated a couple times in a matter of a week out loud, "make me happy" and "if you make me happy, you'll be happy." I didn't really want to burst his bubble and tell him that if he was genuinely and confidently happy, then none of our actions would falter that momentum he had going. I realized that him repeating himself was only my guidance to write about this topic. When I was giving my speech for my sister's wedding, I also offered the same advice. I told her and her husband to make sure to never hold the other responsible for his or her happiness or lack thereof. See you don't need to be married, or have children, or live a certain life to be able to offer this very important piece of information.


So, if you're wondering how one is to attain one's freedom and not let others, situations, or events control one's composure, the answer is through practice. Did you ever experience situations growing up when someone was mean to you, treated you unkindly, or upset you and you carried that terrible feeling around with you all day or even for days? I did. Not only that, but I let relationships with family, friends and partners (even brief ones), control my level of confidence, joy, or love. When I look back, I realize I was never truly stable or in control of my own emotions. If I were interested in someone and he didn't reply, I instantly would think I did something wrong. If he ended up replying, I would get excited. So my feelings would carry on like this like a rollercoaster. I know that there are countless people who have been through this scenario and I want to let you all know that you can pull yourself out of this emotional rollercoaster. It just takes SELF WORK to obtain your SELF WORTH. Key word being "self." Yes, it also means putting yourself first and taking care of you before being able to help others. I've traveled my whole life and it wasn't until my spiritual awakening that I finally had the aha moment on one of my flights. I never understood why the flight attendants always repeated "make sure you put your oxygen mask on first before assisting others" until that one flight. It all made sense. This self work can be journaling, writing angry letters to those who have hurt you, then taking a break and writing all the ways they in fact helped you grow and learn. This self work also involves one of my favorite processes my mentor Esther Hicks talks about which is a Rampage of Appreciation. It is exactly what the title says, go on a rampage of appreciating all the things, people, situations around you. I started this rampage during the pandemic. During a time of uncertainty for most of the world. The timing was perfect. I would drive a few times a week to the only hidden beach in Newport Beach that was open and that I was certain was meant for me and the other awakened beings. On that drive I began to state my appreciations out loud. Statements such as, "I appreciate my health, I appreciate my car, I appreciate the money for the gas in my car, I appreciate my body for being healthy, I appreciate all the people working during this pandemic, I appreciate the beach I'm on..." The list went on and on. Even when I went to Trader Joes after my long walk, I would wait in a long line due to the restrictions of social distancing. A perfect place to continue my rampage of appreciation. Not long after months of this practice, I was truly able to find the beauty and love in so many more things and people around me. It was like magic. While so many others were scared and almost imprisoned in their homes, I felt freer than I had ever felt in my life. I felt a greater sense of hope, fulfillment, and peace for not only myself, but the whole world. I was able to send loving, healthy, pure healing vibrations out into the world every morning and day through my meditations. See, if I didn't actively focus inwards, I wouldn't have been able to focus outwards so clearly.


In summary, we all have troubles, battles, and deal with the uncertainties of life. Remember that two important words in that sentence are "we all.." There isn't one person on this walk of life that is flowing perfectly without overcoming something. We are never alone and should never have to feel alone. We are all connected in one way or another. Life is meant to zig zag, to flow and to throw us some curve balls. The key factor is are we going to strike out and quit, or make it to first base. That's all we need to focus on is at least making it to first base, then second, third, and finally home. One step at a time. One base at a time. Striking out is ok too! You can still be in the game. Even in baseball, when a player strikes out, he comes back stronger and better than before. There's a recent quote that I came across immediately after writing this blog and publishing it. It happens to be by Babe Ruth and he says, "Every strike brings me closer to the next home run." I was so excited that the Universe sent me this confirmation only a day after it was published, that I had to go back and insert it into my blog. This is how it works! I was also coincidentally just guided to watch an old movie with Kevin Costner titled "Field of Dreams" before completing this blog. Costner's character is in the corn fields when he hears a voice that says, "if you build it he will come." He hears that voice many times until he finally listens, and then a series of other messages come through. This is very important because it reminds us that when we get quiet and "hear" our inner guidance (angelic guidance) and don't know what it means or what's to come of it, we must follow through. We must have FAITH. Once we follow through, we are rewarded with the next steps and within these steps, the fulfillments we desire. The wishes and desires we have are sent out into the Universe and are being granted. Think of the Universe as your own personal genie except you get an abundance of wishes! The key is finding our peace and quiet in order to follow the answers and signs that are coming in and guiding us for our highest and greatest good. That key is also unlocking the many doors to our eternal freedom.




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